How to Be the Man She Wants You To Be In Bed

Women; they say one thing, and mean another! That’s how guys see it, and it’s one reason why your sex life can become, well, boring! Despite being well into the 21st century, there are still plenty of taboos about what is and what is not done. Let’s start with a few obvious ones: only a slut likes anal, right? You need to be a gentle lover every time, yes? And a little bit of spanking – well, that’s best left to those who are into seriously dodgy stuff, isn’t it?

Here’s the thing: have you asked her? Have you tried telling you’d like to spice things up a little, perhaps try something new, something different?  Lot of guys don’t ask, because they don’t want to put their girl in a position where she feels obliged to do something she doesn’t want to do. But what of, secretly and not wanting to make you think she’s a bit on the kinky side, she wants to try some of the stuff you also want? You never know the kinky things women want in bed until you ask!

Agree Beforehand

Note that we’re telling you to ask: talk to your partner before sex, and the two of you might come up with some ideas. Some women, for example, fantasize about a bit of rough; she might want you to be somewhat more forceful in your lovemaking than you usually are. This is all fine, and all you need to do is set the limits, and stick to them. She might fancy getting over your knee and being disciplined – you don’t have to go the full BDSM route, just keep it how you like.

Getting kinky can also mean taking things elsewhere. Your bed is the place you most likely have sex, but what about a bit of daring in your love life? How about outdoor sex? Think of having sex on, say, a beach – they are often deserted at night – or in the woods, or perhaps you know a secluded beauty spot where nobody goes. The thrill of having sex outdoors is one that men and women love, and you never know, you could draw up a list of places to try.

It’s All About Two

The thing is, you’ll never get anywhere in firing up your sex life if you don’t talk about it. That spark you both had when you first got together; it goes out, it fades away, and things become routine. She might enjoy giving you head, but may prefer you to go down on her more often. She might wat to try anal, but – like you – is afraid to ask. She might just want you to talk dirty to her: it doesn’t make her a slut, it just turns her on. Sex is a two-way thing, and if you take the time to discuss what you haven’t tried but might both want to, who knows where you may end up!

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